ABOUT ALEX
Your Trainer, Therapist, & Confidant
I’ve always been fascinated by the richness of human connection — the threads that bind us and the patterns that unravel us. My journey toward cultivating a compassionate consciousness has been anything but linear, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Music & Meaning
After completing a music degree in the UK in 1993, I set off on what became a seven-year adventure—traveling the world, playing my clarinet at street festivals and events.
These experiences immersed me in the richness of diverse cultures, but what struck me most was a sense of our shared humanity—how deeply we all long for connection, understanding, and belonging.
When I relocated to Australia in 2000, I built a vibrant career as a circus artist and musician. Creativity remained at the heart of my life, but something was missing.
I was struggling in certain relationships—especially with the father of my child. I felt trapped in cycles of miscommunication and reactivity, oscillating between blaming others and blaming myself.
I didn’t yet have the tools to understand what was really happening beneath the surface. That’s when I found Nonviolent Communication
The Moment that Changed Everything
Discovering Nonviolent Communication (NVC) in 2012 was a revelation. It put words to truths I had always felt in my heart but had struggled to articulate due to years of conditioning. I began to recognise my own unconscious reactivity, and with that awareness came the ability to meet myself—and others—with greater compassion and curiosity.
Then, life took a dramatic turn. My partner unexpectedly walked out of our 11-year relationship. Even more devastating, he walked out on our young daughter too. I was left as a sole parent—heartbroken, financially unstable, and utterly lost. It was one of the darkest times of my life.
Practicing NVC didn’t just support me through this—it saved me. It gave me the strength to navigate the heartbreak, find forgiveness, and emerge with a deeper sense of resilience.
I’ve Learnt to…
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Heal childhood wounds that once held me back
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Overcome addiction and cycles of reactivity
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Recover quickly from conflict and/or shame
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Find peace with those whose actions had caused me pain
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Deepen my relationships with the people I love
One of the greatest gifts of all has been NVC’s impact on my parenting.
Raising my now 19-year-old daughter with compassion and presence has been a profound privilege. I cherish the rich connection we share and celebrate her resilience, empathy, and interdependence.
Bridging Compassion & Neuroscience
My passion for compassion inevitably led me to come a certified NVC Trainer with CNVC in 2017 and I have since trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)—a science-backed approach to healing relationships. Through my work with couples, individuals, and groups, I’ve seen firsthand how these tools and practices can break cycles of blame, defensiveness, and emotional disconnection—bringing immediate insight and relief, even in the most complex situations.
In today’s world—where anxiety, loneliness, and disconnection are widespread—it can be difficult to find clarity about what drives us and what gives our lives meaning. I believe we are inherently wired for connection, and when we begin to understand our patterns, validate our needs, and step into greater authenticity, we open the door to deeper relationships, inner peace, and a more fulfilling life.
My Mission
HELPING YOU BUILD HEALTHIER, HAPPIER RELATIONSHIPS
At HealthyRelationships.Life (formerly MindTheGapNVC), I offer coaching, mediation, mentorship, and workshops designed to help you:
❤ Communicate with confidence and authenticity.
❤ Navigate conflict with empathy instead of reactivity.
❤ Strengthen your relationships—with others and yourself.
I often wonder how much suffering could be avoided if we were taught these skills as children. But the good news? It’s never too late to learn.
What I Offer
CULTIVATE LASTING LOVEWhether you're looking to heal old wounds, transform your communication, or deepen the connections that matter most, I’m here to support you.
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Individual and couples coaching to strengthen communication and emotional intelligence.
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Helping resolve conflicts with empathy and understanding.
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Interactive trainings that equip you with tools to create happier, healthier relationships.
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Supporting NVC enthusiasts on the path to certification.
Ready To Begin?
I KNOW IT’S NOT EASYIf you’re feeling stuck, hopeless, or unsure of how to move forward, know that you don’t have to figure it out alone. There is a way through.
Together, we can break free from old patterns and create relationships — and a life — that feel truly aligned.
Let’s take the first step