ABOUT EFT
Healing Relationships Through Emotional Connection
A PROVEN REASEARCH-BACKED APPROACH
When relationships feel stuck in conflict, disconnection, or emotional distance, it’s easy to lose hope. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) offers a proven, research-backed approach to rebuilding trust, deepening intimacy, and fostering secure emotional bonds.
What is EFT?
EMOTIONALLY FOCUSED THERAPY (EFT)
Developed in the 1980s by Dr. Susan Johnson and Dr. Leslie Greenberg, and drawing on Dr. John Bowlby’s attachment theory, EFT emphasises our deep human need for emotional connection, especially during times of loneliness or fear.
At its core, EFT is about creating emotional security - the foundation that nurtures and sustains healthy relationships.
Why EFT Works
HEALING THROUGH EMOTIONAL CONNECTION
EFT is built on the understanding that emotions are not just part of life, they shape the very fabric of our relationships. Emotional security and connection are key to transforming troubled dynamics, fostering growth for both individuals and couples.
With EFT, couples can:
Experience Emotional Healing – Feel seen, understood, and supported in your most vulnerable moments.
Communicate with Clarity – Express your feelings and needs in ways that strengthen connection.
Create Healthier Patterns – Break free from negative cycles and build new ways of relating.
Develop Deeper Trust – Create a secure emotional bond that brings you closer together.
With over 85% of couples experiencing lasting improvements, EFT is highly effective, even in challenging situations like infidelity, trauma, or communication breakdowns.
Reframing Conflict as a Cry for Connection
CONNECTION IS WIRED INTO USConnection is what helps us feel safe and secure. When this bond feels threatened, our nervous system responds with distress. This often shows up as:
Criticism – Feeling unheard or worrying that we don’t matter
Withdrawal –Pulling away when conflict feels overwhelming
Anger or shutdown – When frustration builds or vulnerability feels too risky
EFT helps couples reframe behaviours like anger or withdrawal not as harmful or pathological, but as attempts (often misguided) to connect.
Through guided conversations couples are able to understand and reframe their experiences in a way that rebuilds trust and closeness.
EFT is for Couples Who Are:
Feeling distant or disconnected, longing to feel close again
Finding themselves in recurring conflict, where small issues turn into big fights
Rebuilding trust after infidelity, seeking a safe space to heal and reconnect
Wanting to build a strong foundation, for long lasting love
Whether you’re nurturing a new relationship or rekindling a long-term one, EFT fosters emotional security and deeper intimacy
The Healing Process
Breaking Cycles & Building ConnectionEFT helps couples interrupt negative cycles by encouraging partners to express deeper emotions and unmet needs in ways that promote connection.
As emotional security is restored, partners develop the resilience needed to navigate life’s challenges together. Reconnection becomes a powerful source of comfort, allowing conflicts to be resolved with greater compassion and understanding.
The 3 Stages of EFT
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Identifying and breaking negative cycles of conflict and withdrawal
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Building deeper emotional responsiveness and secure attachment
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Strengthening new patterns for lasting relationship transformation
“Emotional responsiveness—tuning into and supporting the other — is the key defining element of love.”
– Dr. Sue Johnson
Experience the Power of EFT
I UNDERSTAND, IT’S NOT EASYIf you're ready to transform your relationship, EFT offers a roadmap to lasting love and connection.
When your relationship feels stuck or strained, it can be hard to know where to begin. EFT offers a roadmap to lasting love and connection. One built on trust, understanding, and emotional safety.
If you’re ready to take the first step, to heal old wounds, build deeper intimacy, or reconnect with your partner, I’d love to support you.